Sunday, December 29, 2013

Snap! The trap just shut on haughtiness.

Wow. It's amazing. This is not deliberate but sometimes I bring out the true colours in some people.

It's over twenty years ago that I found that when I play the fool it gives most people a sense of freedom to be their true selves. Now that's fine if their true self is closely aligned to the face they show the world, but my game often brings people a cropper. It shouldn't surprise me, but it does.

The first time it really happened was when a mild mannered young teacher friend of my wife offered some blistering condescension as we were carpooling one day - about 1989. It happened very recently when a friend's wife - in an extremely stressful situation - stated "well I'd hate to live in your house".

I perhaps shouldn't have been playing the fool however my friend was in the game with me, and his wife hurt me deeply. As well as showing her true colours. Life goes on but it has reminded me - if a person behaves the fool then they may not be a fool and that people have three faces:

The face they show to the world
The face they show their closest and most trusted
The face deep inside that often they don't even know exists

And often your comments say more about you than they do about me.

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