"Deserve got nothing to do with it"

I was recently scourged in a shouting match with someone close to me "all of the good things you've got; x,y,z etc - you don't deserve any one of them".

In context, it's probably the most hurtful thing I've had said to me in a long time but sometime you just have to roll with the punches.

That was a week or so ago, but I have mulled over on it and continue to get stuck on the scene in "The Wire". Gang people are killing others in cold blooded harshness and the character driving - Snoop - was taking Michael to a setup. Michael tested her out, talking about someone else who got capped and she retorted "it was his time, deserve got nothing to do with it."

http://youtu.be/sHT-VOLVFzQ

Isn't that the truth? If deserve had anything to do with life, things'd be very different for many people. It's a roll of the dice - you're equally as likely to get what you deserve as to get what you do.

So, secure in my knowledge of the random allocation of life's favours and pains I can agree. I don't deserve the good things that I have. And the good news - I don't deserve the bad.