Thursday, October 8, 2015

Don't. Lie. Good advice for business and for life.

I'm sure Karma will take care of his, but I've been blindsided by some blatant lies recently. Blindsided because the lies were unnecessary. The lies were used to achieve trivial things for their perpetrators, but they branded the perpetrator - in my mind - as a person who can't be trusted.

I understand the little half truths that grease the wheels of social life. Telling a person that their meatloaf wasn't disgusting or that their singing voice doesn't hurt your ears - pretty harmless. Although gently inserting some truth seems to gain me more respect: "I like the passion in your writing but I had trouble understanding the point you were making".

But bare-arsed lies for minimal gain? I've encountered two, recently.

"Your deadline is October 5 because the business deadlines mandate this"
No - you're going on leave and wanted the work out of the way, for your reasons. I found the business deadlines were weeks later. You're a liar.

"We deliberately reduced the number of clients we booked because you didn't have the teams to do the job"
No - you lost one of the clients a week into the project. You were as surprised as we were. You're a liar.

To a person with weak personal standards, telling a bare-faced lie is something of a secret weapon - in the short term. But in the long term you gain a reputation for being a bullshit artist - at best - and possibly worse.

A reputation for honesty and forthrightness is a great asset, and it's important not to trash yours.


  1. "I like the passion in your meatloaf but I had trouble understanding the point you were making".