1/ An ex student saw me in a meeting and broke in to say how much they had enjoyed their last year with me - in front of a client. A very nice thing.
2/ An ex student saw (on Facebook) that I was in the airport and found me - because they wanted to catch up. A very nice thing.
Which of the three do you think iare students I wish to have ongoing engagement with? When someone asks me what I think of student X, Y, and Z in little old Adelaide - what do you think my candid feedback will be?
A lesson I've learned in life. Always try to bring more to an interaction than you take out. Energy, skills, capacity, goodwill. In my own case if I disturb the people I've interacted with - then it's very deliberate. Sometimes one can't make an omelette without cracking eggs.
Or perhaps I've just totally screwed up my interaction - it happens.
I remember Dr House was once told "You need people to like you" to which he replied "I don't care if people like me".
"You need people to like you because you need people" [to do things for you]
I need people to like me. And tbh I also like people to like me, without sucking out my life force.